Douglas Coupland twittert, Does it ever get easier? It just won’t stop.<\/p>\n
Daniel Bourke \u200f@danielbourke 7h7 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> michelle \u200f@phthalolife 7h7 hours ago\u2028Edmonton, Alberta \u2028\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Billet Rouge \u200f@billetrouge 33m33 minutes ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Jen & Tonic \u200f@SheerJenius 2h2 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Valerie \u200f@valerieinto 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Alex Clark \u200f@DrAlexMClark 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Tom Streeter \u200f@tom_streeter 5h5 hours ago\u2028Burlington, KY\u2028\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> db \u200f@bittersweetdb 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Alan Hogan \u200f@AlanHogan 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> kc! Bradshaw \u200f@exkclamation 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Tzaddi Gordon \u200f@tzaddi 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> (((dr_bombay))) \u200f@dr_bombay 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Phil Gyford \u200f@philgyford 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Kate Caldwell \u200f@katecaldwell 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Terry Huckleberry \u200f@huckleterry 57m57 minutes ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Terry Huckleberry \u200f@huckleterry 58m58 minutes ago\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Terry Huckleberry \u200f@huckleterry 1h1 hour ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Terry Huckleberry \u200f@huckleterry 1h1 hour ago\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Ris,<\/p>\n Even though sometimes the world seems about six sizes too small for our pain, the amazing shit is that no matter how deep purple the bruise is, no matter how dark and overwhelming and miserable and worthless it all seems, the world will get a fraction of an inch bigger every day.<\/p>\n Really, every fucking day.<\/p>\n And you won\u2019t notice it for a long time until suddenly, one day, it\u2019s only five times too small for your pain and then four and then the world will just keep getting larger and larger in comparison to your shattered heart and eventually it will be able to hold it and then it will outgrow it.<\/p>\n And your pain will be just a speck in your world.<\/p>\n It is supposed to feel like the end of the world right now. That, my beautiful dearest Ris, is how you know that it was worth it. That is why it was one of the relationships that shook your core and after which you will never be the same. That is how you know that you are growing up and are experiencing shit rather than living safely in risk-free choices\u2026.<\/p>\n The world is supposed to feel as though it is ending and you are supposed to know only in the most dormant recesses of the backmost corner of your soul that it will not be like this forever.<\/p>\n You are supposed to feel acutely and lucidly that everything is over that your purpose for life is worthless and that not even cheesy pasta and molly ringwald movies are going to make you smile, and you are supposed to know opaquely and elusively and abstractly that everything is not over and that your purpose in life is so much huger than you can ever imagine and is still saturated with value and that you will eat pesto and read Stephen Dunn and live in Manhattan and have stacks of waffles at corner diners with girlfriends and spend inordinate amounts of money on bath products and sunbathe on the roof reading trashy novels and you will will will will will will will love again.<\/p>\n I did not think that I was going to be able to ever breathe without shaking again after J broke up with me, let alone successfully love and fuck again.<\/p>\n That is what you are supposed to think.<\/p>\n I cried hysterically for months.<\/p>\n I wept so much that I had stewardesses on planes ask me if I needed oxygen, I had waitresses refuse to serve me, I had strangers approach me with offers of help.<\/p>\n Then I stopped.<\/p>\n Then I started again and stopped again and started again and then stopped for good\u2026<\/p>\n \u2026 I promise you will survive, and with more grace than you can now imagine and that you will have more grit and vision because of it.<\/p>\n Moral: Sometimes someone can crack open something that feels very safe and make you unreasonably vulnerable: you will live to tell the story of this shock.<\/small><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Anne Pratt \u200f@AnneEliSonia 2h2 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Elisha \u200f@takesthecake 2h2 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> HUGE window \u200f@HUGEwindow 3h3 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Sebastien Marion \u200f@sebastienmarion 3h3 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Martin \u200f@machei 5h5 hours ago\u2028Waterloo, Ontario\u2028\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Dennis Green \u200f@chefdgreen 5h5 hours ago \u2028Delta, British Columbia\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Courtney Barrett \u200f@courtneybtweets 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> janet Dimond \u200f@augies_gourmet 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Se\u00e1n Bailey \u200f@seantbailey 5h5 hours ago\u2028Kent, WA \u2028\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Erin S \u200f@ErinAS 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Drew Hagen \u200f@drew_hagen 6h6 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> s\u00falon. \u200f@pistachox 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Graeham Douglas \u200f@Graeham 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Not a Spam Bot \u200f@googlyeyecat 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Elaine Cuff \u200f@LainieCuff 6h6 hours ago\u2028 Cape Breton, Nova Scotia\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Nikki Bayley \u200f@TheMapleLife 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Terri Duff \u200f@TerriDuff 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Agracadagra \u200f@agniesia72 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Upper Join \u200f@upperjoin 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Judith Price \u200f@JudithPrice 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Lars \u200f@techcredo 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Harlot C \u200f@OpiumHarlot 7h7 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Crystal brown \u200f@Crystal14889824 7h7 hours ago\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Martin Bendeler \u200f@Martin_Bonobo 7h7 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> JarradAlexanderYoung \u200f@JYoung28 7h7 hours ago \u2028Blaengarw, Wales\u2028\u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Toy Sergal C2883 \u200f@ToySergal 7h7 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Jenifer H \u200f@jenifer2126 3h3 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong> Douglas Coupland twittert, Does it ever get easier? It just won’t stop. Daniel Bourke \u200f@danielbourke 7h7 hours ago\u2028\u2028 @DougCoupland I have no idea but I think you should hang in there.\u2028\u2028 \u2028 Kathleen Ralph \u200f@Kathleen_Ralph 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland it does get better, but like all darkness you must patiently await the return of theRead more »<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1315],"tags":[27,147],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45076"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45076"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45076\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":45084,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45076\/revisions\/45084"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45076"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45076"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.imhd.nl\/log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45076"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nI have no idea but I think you should hang in there.\u2028\u2028
\n\t\t\u2028
\nKathleen Ralph \u200f@Kathleen_Ralph 5h5 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong>
\nit does get better, but like all darkness you must patiently await the return of the sun.\u2028<\/p>\n
\nthank you for your writing. It got me through a lot. Hang in there. [heart icon]<\/em><\/p>\n
\nYes, the pain will lessen as you adapt to a new normal. For now, surround yourself with loved ones as much as possible.<\/p>\n
\n[heart icon]<\/em><\/p>\n
\nYes. Then worse, then better. Might want to check this out and chat anonymously: https:\/\/www.sicknotweak.com\/chat\/welcome\/\u00a0<\/p>\n
\nfeel it and know you have all you need already to get through.<\/p>\n
\nYeah, it does. But it sucks. But you mean a lot to folks. You matter. Hang in there!<\/p>\n
\nOne took me five years. But it did improve in that time! I hope yours is better than that. xo\u2028<\/p>\n
\nEverything always gets easier. Sometimes it takes a long time, but no pain can stay so sharp forever.<\/p>\n
\nyes it does. Time helps, distance can help, exercise helps\u2014find people or things to help take your mind off it or talk it thru<\/p>\n
\nit does. Our brain says it won\u2019t, but it does.\u2028<\/p>\n
\nyes, it can and does. meditation helps: realize that this moment is just a moment\u2026 it will pass.<\/p>\n
\nYes, it does. Thinking of you. Look after yourself.<\/p>\n
\nYes and it doesn’t but it does lessen. #Breathe (I’m not a fan of things but this one works)<\/p>\n
\nFind out if you can take dogs for walks at your local shelter and then do that.\u2028<\/p>\n
\nAlso I second the advice to spend time with animals. Especially dogs.<\/p>\n
\nIt does and it will but it takes time and it sucks. Take it one day at a time and don’t be discouraged by setbacks.\u2028<\/p>\n
\nThis is the best text I’ve ever read about having your heart broken and it helped me get over mine http:\/\/www.autostraddle.com\/the-best-break-up-advice-youll-ever-get-84054\/:<\/p>\n
\nI believe it becomes possible to put things in their rightful place. Never give up.<\/p>\n
\nYes. You can do this. Just get through now, then another now, then another now. Be kind to yourself. You are loved.<\/p>\n
\nThe best way out is always through. -Robert Frost<\/p>\n
\nNo sense > common sense > profound common sense. Sigh.<\/p>\n
\nhonestly depends upon your perspective of ‘it’. Yes, it can, and with time will.<\/p>\n
\nIt does, it will, but in the meantime it sucks. If there is any shining light it’s creative expression that often follows.<\/p>\n
\nMourning, even the end of a relationship, requires time. Eventually, it will get easier. Know you aren’t alone. You are loved<\/p>\n
\npls be good to yourself. Be kind\/easy. If you need medical help just get it. Do for yourself as you would your own child.<\/p>\n
\nWe only met once, but you ask publicly, Yes. I’m a living example. I’m sliding virtual Pop-Tarts under your door now. Hang in<\/p>\n
\nMy awful periods friends, family and art and music help. This album and song have helped a lot lately. PUSCIFER “GRAND CANYON”.<\/p>\n
\nIt can. It changes. It sucks. And you go on. Stay with us.\u2028<\/p>\n
\n<3\u2028\n\nCam Calder \u200f@Camerock 6h6 hours ago \u2028\u2028@DougCoupland<\/small><\/strong>
\nit can smell, look and feel better and make you laugh harder?.. “a tragedy is a comedy misunderstood.” Stephen Mitchell.<\/p>\n
\nit gets better. This too shall pass<\/p>\n
\nit gets further away which in some way makes it easier. X<\/p>\n
\nYou likely have to get used to a new normal. Sending \ufffc[heart icon]<\/em> your way.<\/p>\n
\nYes. I promise you it does. Please be with friends. Go and breathe and be in gorgeous nature,. Spend time with animals.<\/p>\n
\nread Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig. Sometimes books can help you through things. \ufffcHang in there.<\/p>\n
\nit does. eventually. much love to you!<\/p>\n
\nhang in there man<\/p>\n
\nYes, please hang on. Get those friends back on duty!<\/p>\n
\nYes. It does. Gradually and slowly. Exercise. Allow yourself to be sad but don’t wallow. It will get better.<\/p>\n
\nit does. your books help<\/p>\n
\nplease keep strong.. Life is worth living, their is beaty in every day<\/p>\n
\nthis too shall pass<\/p>\n
\nyes it does and it will<\/p>\n
\nNope. But please, carry on.<\/p>\n
\nYes, people adapt and time makes everything better. Take care of yourself and be well.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"